Holding Up Your 50

There are two sides to every friendship. There is your fifty percent, and their fifty percent. I've recently looked at several friendships in my life and found myself questioning, "Am I holding up my 50?" I think it's okay to be selfish sometimes. I think it's okay to take time for yourself. But there are times we need to be selfless. We need to realize that the people in our lives are there for a reason, and the only way they'll stay is if we put in that effort.

It's easy to become too comfortable within any given friendship. You've taken the time to cultivate it, but it can't be given up on. Time will take it's toll on any friendship, only if we allow it to. We've all been a witness to it countless times, I'm sure. We grow apart, but we don't have to. We don't have to watch what we worked so hard for crumble. Shouldn't we feel the need to fight for what we love?

I've realized that I'm the kind of person who will fight hard for my friendships. You might be as well. Sometimes that turns into absorbing the other person's 50. All of the sudden we're holding 75 or 100, while the other person has dropped everything. There eventually comes a crossroad decision. Will we fight to restore the balance, or will we drop everything in surrender? The difficulty behind letting go of a friendship is a difficulty that is hard for us to accept, but sometimes it's necessary. Unbalanced friendships become exhausting, and sometimes we deserve to rest.

So, what do we do? We evaluate our friendships. We make decisions. We either stay put or move on. We come to terms with what is worth fighting for and what is not. We accept the fact that we're worth fighting for. 

And we realize that we're worth the full 100.